Wednesday, April 4, 2007

Hot Female Dominant Utopia

So, I've always liked to write. (Which, if you are any sort of writer or would be variation, you will know right off is a total lie, because saying you like to write means that you actually hate writing, words being the absolute worst and most brutal mistress anybody could have. You are going to understand what I mean completely by the last sentence or have no clue and if you have no clue, be happy about it. No matter either, we're going to skip ahead now because not being a masochist, I'd rather not detail the beatings I've gotten from blank pages and words that refuse to arrange themselves properly on same. It's just not hot.)

As I say, I've always liked to write.

Naturally, a lot of the fiction I've typed out has been along the themes of this blog. It can be quite handy to write your own erotica (what a sophisticated word for "porn") and not be stuck with just whatever badly written scraps you can google off the web. Write your own bad porn! Free and completely guaranteed to be tailored to your own turn ons.

Fictional Female Dominant Societies are one of my favorite settings . . . found some early inspiration. Sci Fi writers occasionally like to put a whip in the hand of Amazonian rulers and a collar on male slaves. Star Trek threw out a few plots like that... including the eminently forgettable to anybody but me 1974 "Planet Earth" pilot for a Trek series never made, where John Saxon is captured and enslaved by women who enslave all of their men, buying and selling, tying up, whipping...why that series didn't get picked up, I can't say.

The thing I like about writing in a female dominant society setting is how freeing creating your own reality rules is. Yeah, the set up is always cheesy, but once you get the set up out of the way, you can play with the twists in normal people in a setting that can't exist real world. The people are the same, the setting is the boundary push you need. And it gets really hot, which is mostly the point.

Let me give you a plot synopsis containing the best characters and relationship I ever wrote. (Handsome male slaves ahead!)


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Our lead female is a terribly important woman who of course has a house staff of male slaves like every terribly important woman in this fiction. Only, this woman has recently lost her lead male, the love of her life, when he died unexpectedly, and discharges everybody because she's so heartbroken, declaring she will live by herself. Our lead male was recently enslaved in a household where he was abused, beyond the rules that the society allows, and "rescued" by the strict but reasonably compassionate female government. One thing and another, the reasonably compassionate female government puts the two of them together, because it's completely improper for a terribly important woman to not have at least one slave.

God, I love setting up societies with totally implausible logical rules.

So, we've got people with pain and walls, thrown together, what's going to happen next? What happens is that the guy begins to fall for the woman, and wants to reach her. There are tender scenes, quite a bit of time goes on, but nothing can break her free from her grief. Until, our handsome hero (which is what he is, a hero), risks his own worst fears and baits her into being so angry that she finally lets loose and really just punishes the shit out of him. I mean seriously, bondage and whips and serious punishment. And then sex and of course it's all tender afterwards and they probably both cry. (I can't remember exactly, I wrote this a long time ago, long lost.) And then other stuff happens, a lot of that being hot, too. And then more stuff, and that's hot as well.

Love, pain, sex, pain, love and female dominant utopia.

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If you've gotten this far, I'm going to beg you to pay close attention right now. (I don't normally beg, so this must be critical. )

Female Dominant Utopia Societies are fiction. F-I-C-T-I-O-N. As in "not real". As in "they don't exist". They are a clever set up, a hot twist, a piece of fantasy to get you through a night or a weekend. Fiction.

What is up, what is up, what is up with some people in F/m circles seeming to seriously believe that female dominant utopia exists? Or, if they are sane enough to understand it's not real, seeming to think that it should exist, real world? That women are better than men and should be installed as Supreme Beings 'cause we're better? (If I were BitchyJones, I would now mumble something about "fucking nutters", but I can't take my rants that far.)

Please cut it out. You guys are just killing my masturbatory fantasies, I mean serious fiction writing.

Here's a line I read recently, said for real, as if it were a perfectly known "fact". This is also a line that one of my evil woman characters would utter. (She would be blonde because all of my evil women characters are blonde, I'm sorry, I have issues.)

An aroused man is a subservient man and a relieved man is a lazy man. There's no
other possible or plausible way for me to see it and this is after 15 years of
experience and a # of males.

(And then, even in my Hot Female Dominant Utopia, the blonde evil woman would get her comeuppance because even there that's just wrong to say without plot retribution. She'd probably lose all her men while the good women got to beat the guys and use their body parts for orgasm after orgasm. )

It can't be just me. Don't you think this smearing of fiction and reality together is frickin' scary? Exercise: try substituting a racial or ethnic group for the word "man" in the above line. Try it. Use "black", I dare you. I'll sit here and wait for the gasp.

Horrified? If you aren't, there's no hope for you. If you can't see this kind of thinking is horribly wrong to preach, nothing more I can say.




As for my hope, I need to wash my brain of knowing that people actually believe and preach this crap before I can enjoy an Amazonian woman inspecting a strapping field slave who is hoping desperately to be selected for the sex service pool up at the main house.


Sometimes she picks the ones with the largest appendages, sometimes the ones who can take the most pain, so he really is so nervous and terribly unsure.


He's hoping the answer this time is pain, because he knows he's willing to take whatever he has to to be closer to her. He braces himself mentally as he strips his clothes off, eying the crop that is always by her side. He will please her.


C'mon, I like this cheesy stuff. Just cut it out, okay?

26 comments:

saratoga said...

Elizabeth-

I'm totally in agreement. Excellent points all.

I am guessing we are thinking of the same impossibly naive, bigoted and insane site.

When I think "Female Supremacy," as I've written on my own blog, it is carefully restricted to my own Mistress. Other than that, a woman is just a woman, in my in-person life.

Yes, it scares me, as it does you, to think that some young, recently-married woman really believes this stuff. When it's men, you can write it off as addled fantasies of sexually-desperate, cock-ruled males. When it's women, I don't know.

Naivete? Inferiority complexes? Who knows?

Yes, it's just another form of segment bigotry. For every woman who cheers Frisco Nan and Hillary, I know another woman who still votes with her head, and doesn't trust either one.

If it were only about gender, we'd be in one helluva mess going forward.

Great post!

-saratoga

Bitchy Jones said...

OMG!

I thought you were going to make some kind of point. I cannot see it. I am porn blind! (C'mon, call it porn. It's very freeing.)

I like the thing were he goads into extra harsh punishment. Damn, you got any more notes written? Maybe you just need the eye of a sympathetic editor.

Elizabeth said...

Thanks, Saratoga. :)

Honestly, why take a perfectly good sexual kink and then ruin it all by turning into a White Supremacy Movement with gender nouns instead of racial ones.

For the record, I read that female quote on a male blog. I don't know what makes me crazier, that women say these things or that men repeat them.

I'm not even sure that all of people who say this crap as fact actually believe it...but I do know that a lot of people are drinking it in.

If they'd just cut it out and write some good porn while looking for the 24/7 they think they want, and not mess with other people's heads....dear, I'm ranting again.

(I really try to leave the ranting to Bitchy. She's the one who is supposed to fix all of the broken things.)

Hugs,E

Elizabeth said...

LOL, Bitchy, I tried to put in as many good bits as I could for you. You get grouchy if I post without any good bits.

I'm glad you like my guy helping the woman by goading her into it scenerio. I really loved those characters. Nothing like a good tender + brutal romance story to make you want to celebrate Valentines Day.

No notes, nothing, I really do rip everything up after awhile, completely disgusted that I can't WRITE BETTER.

And yes, I was shouting. :)

E

saratoga said...

Elizabeth-

On a male's site???? Wow. Even scarier.

As if a male would know! So some submissively-oriented male received a comment from a female to that effect?

For the record, the assertion is factually in error. I can attest personally, as one of the exceptions.

Aaaaanyhoooo.... good post. Very funny, mixed with tart commentary.

Hey, that's why I added you to my link list today!

Cheers,

-saratoga

Elizabeth said...

Hey Saratoga -

Oh yeah, male site, and it's not a single occurrence, just one that happened to really put a burr under my saddle.

It's actually a terribly fashionable concept right now, as fashionable as a spreading oozing fungus of non-thinking bigotry can be, that is.

Thanks for the link, muchly. I'll pop over to say thank you properly in a bit...I'm a little embarassed (the good kind)

Hugs.....E

Ms. Reciprocity said...

I never know whether to be more disgusted by the men wanting these women or the women professing their superiority because they got a man to kneel. These people have made single dom(me)hood (just to irritate Bitchy) ridiculous to escape.

But, saratoga- "When it's men, you can write it off as addled fantasies of sexually-desperate, cock-ruled males. When it's women, I don't know."

Um. Is it just me? Or did you just negate your agreement tremendously? Wouldn't being able to 'write it off' for a man but nor for a woman be saying that you expect better from women than you do men? That women are superior in their thought process than men? Not that I wouldn't tend to agree with the spirit of what you said from time to time...but...

Maybe I'm just reading it wrong.

Duct tape.
I see no duct tape in this utopia porn preview.
I am seriously, seriously disappointed Mrs.Spankington.

Elizabeth said...

Yeah, no duct in Utopia, what about that?

You know, I'm not sure I see duct tape in Hot Female Dominant Utopia. Mine tend to have an earthier feel -- lots more ropes and leather, less chrome and shiny.

Your Utopia could have lots of duct tape, though. Boxes and boxes. That's the great thing about making your own bad porn, no limits but your own. :)

E

Ms. Reciprocity said...

Could I have TWO utopias? Because I like the earthy thing too. In fact I am curling up with Swiss Family Robinson (again) tonight....ropes, Fritz...

But I like chrome and shiny too.

I actually just have a thing for 'southern engineering'. That's the duct tape talking.

Elizabeth said...

Gracious, you can have as many Utopias as you like. Writing your own bad porn has no limits.

You could have one utopian society whose economy is based on duct tape production and exports. And the women could be scientists who develop better and better adhesives and the men's job is to be duct tape test objects.

No limits! :)

E

Ms. Reciprocity said...

Just wanted to add...that wasn't an attack on saratoga; but an honest attempt at debating a great subject and a great point.

And, Elizabeth ... I think a series on spanking men of yesteryear is in order....whadya think?
...
Steve McQueen
Arol Flynn
Cary Grant
Clark Gable
Fred Astaire
James Dean
....those are men I'd put in my less duct-tapey utopia.

Anonymous said...

Just discovered your blog and am greatly enjoying it.

You are so right about the appeal of writing your own porn. No one can press my buttons the way I can.

Trouble is that ‘good’ porn, like good theatre, requires a suspension of disbelief. I recall acting in a Hindu classic during my theatre school days. We decided (rightly or wrongly) that in Indian theatre all actors entered from a door in the back centre of the stage. The player would then walk (out of character) to the space the entry should be made, drop into character, and proceed with the drama. The ridiculous affectation was soon accepted as natural to the players and the audiences never seemed to have a problem with it.

My fantasies revolve around my being ‘taken charge’ of by some sort of feminine authority figure. She sets the rules as to how I must behave and punishes me when I fail to comply. (I have tried this with a few women I admire and trust but it has never worked out.) The realities of getting my ass blistered against my will (and ‘punishment’ requires an experience that the person being punished doesn’t like and wants to avoide) makes me want to put an end to the arrangement in a hurry.)

The stories, however, are fun. Just so long as I realise that they are utter nonsense.

Again,,, thanks for your blog. I intend to read it often.

Jack

saratoga said...

Ms.Reciprocity-

No attack taken. :)

Actually, I think you may have read more into my remark than even I intended.

I meant that, as a male, I think I can reasonably infer the sources of their fantasies of this type.

Not being a woman, I can't speak to theirs. Nor being a dominant in this particular sphere of behavior.

Thus, my, "when it's women, I don't know." It is just that- I do not know. They, also, could well be simply oversexually driven to this type of non-thinking bigotry and inanity.

Yes, a very good point to debate, since it is all over FemDom-related blogdom like kudzu.

Hard to tell which is more naseau-inducing: the FemSupreme women who claim superiority over all men in everything, or the henpecked....er...dominated....houseboys who kneel to all women, sight unseen. How special.

-saratoga

Alexis said...

I totally, utterly disagree.

"Bad Porn," like bad everything, is supported largely by those who cannot produce better.

Gawd.

Listen to yourselves.

Elizabeth said...

Alexis -

Well, of course it is. And I mean that softly, not all snapping back at you.

I can see from your blog that you write, and it must frustrate you to see bad or mediocre writing around. (I'm sure a fine chef is upset that people make tuna noodle casseroles and grilled cheese sandwiches. A chef would probably starve before eating a tuna noodle casserole.)

But to each his own. Everyone's life isn't filled with fine literature and fine dining. Sometimes I eat McDonalds and sometimes I like bad porn. (And B movies. And reruns of The Fresh Prince of Belair. And Airplane, god, I love that movie. Oh, and Marshamallow Peeps, but not the pink ones.)


E

Elizabeth said...

Jack, well hugs and thank you.

Honestly, I don't know that I've read any good porn (although I've seen and participated in shows as you describe and you made me laugh just to remember).

I'd define "porn" as something that pushes my buttons (and is written pretty explicitly) and "good" as not bad. Written on a level beyond a run-of-the-mill bodice ripper. I actually have a terrible time reading bad writing, even though I seem to produce it with ease! :)

I think you touched on something else in your comment, fantasy vs reality, that wasn't in my original post. What I meant to address in my post (while sprinkling porn about to keep Bitchy happy), was an alarming trend of folks confusing utopian porn with real life...that nasty supremecist philosophy.

You brought in another factor that I appreciate -- folks who confuse the *ideas* that turn them on with what they want out of a real life encounter. I think this hurts a lot of people, often unintentionally, but net effect.

I know quite a few women, for instance, who feel that they are led along by "players" who like talking about acts and then chicken out, stand the women up, disappear with a *poof*, leaving the women hurt and confused. If this is done *intentionally*, using the women for a sort of "porn", without their consent and knowledge, that's a terrible thing.

And not in my post, but I'm glad you brought it up.

Thanks for stopping by and I hope to see you again soon!

E

joe bloux said...

Color me ignorant.
I honestly, seriously, thoroughly, believed that the creation of these alternate societies or future histories were strictly a male interest; every now and then it’s happy to be wrong.
I got the idea from a Dom I corresponded with briefly back in the days of snail mail. It was all quite boring to her and she dismissed my little tale out of hand. Silly me, I took it that she represented all femdoms.
Femdom Utopia’s one of my favorite genres of self-porn; I particularly like coming with up new wedding ceremonies and the parameters of official male second-class citizenship. Problem is I only write as long as my erection lasts; once I cum I think of something else to do.
Properly done, though, it could be the romance novel of the 21st century – butt-blisterers rather than bodice-rippers. Swelling codpieces, anyone?

nigel said...

Dear Ms Elizabeth,

Thank you for this post. What you say is thought-provoking and insightful. However, most respectfully, please may I suggest that Female Dominant Utopia's are possible! Ecotopia by Ernest Callenbach maybe a consequential prophesy of climate change and hence matriarchy.

Moreover from this side of the Pacific I find it amazing that Arnold Schwartzenegger, a former actor, now political leader, is allied with Al Gore, a former political leader, now actor. Although these are male analogies; it shows what is possible? A Clinton / Pellosi U.S. government was unthinkable 5 years ago and now is getting closer to reality. I know that my argument is weak because these are not "Utopia's." Perhap's Sharon Green, a ScFi writer, in her "Jalav" and other novels would have a better examination of patriarchy vs matriarchy.

I think deconstructing Female Dominant Utopia's is a bit self indulgent here, so PLEASE may I cut and paste your article, so I can think more and get my arguments straight.

Elizabeth said...

Nigel darling, you can do anything you like. :)

(Clinton and Pelosi aren't making a utopia for me...but I see some threads of whence you are heading. Have at it!)

E

Elizabeth said...

You know what, Mr. Joe Bloux (great name), I'm not surprised that you're surprised.

Where do you read women talking about things like female utopia porn? If it's being talked about much, I've missed it...and lord, I do know how to google.

But see, now that gap is all fixed up. :) (I am more than slightly relieved to report that I'm not the only one........)

E

nigel said...

Dear Ms Elizabeth,

Most respectfully, I have made some comments on my Blog about Jane Austen that are in no way directed at you personally or intended to hurt you although I do ask a question of Ms Elizabeth's Blog.

best wishes nigel

Ms. Reciprocity said...

I am SO glad to see people *talking*. I know that wasn't the point of your post E.; leave it to me to take things off course. :)

saratoga- I actually probably didn't read enough into your statement; that was my first reaction... 'uh, wait a minute...". It was the lack of inflection via the internet thing.."I don't know" came off as incredulous....not literal. I just wanted to make the non-attack aspect clear because, well, a recent entry in your blog said you thought many of us (here) would never admit to reading you, if we did at all...I didn't want you to misunderstand debate as dismissal or divisive. Sometimes people mistake genuine discussion for a personal attack, and I just wanted to avoid more of that. :)

Indeed. I had this long comment composed, and decided instead to write about it on my own blog. But something that has been striking m as I peruse our little corner of the atmosphere is how little it seems to be understood that any of this is only what we make it. Who I may see (through their blogs or whatnot) as someone living highly devoted to 'lifestyle' D/s, may only appear so because that's how *I* perceive the tiny portion of their lives I 'see'. To another they may seem ridiculous, to yet another vanilla. How unwilling to understand anyone else's perception we all often seem to be; all while insisting our own be accepted as gospel.

After Easter, though. :)

Anonymous said...

and if a pedophile writes (fiction) about owning some slaves? Or is that "beyond the pale"?

Elizabeth said...

Dear Anon -

Well, *I* can't even handle roleplay fiction, where adults are pretending on "mommy" "daddy" and "dear auntie" roles.

So, I'm the wrong person to ask, since I couldn't have a conversation about pedophila fiction, imagining children, without needing a toilet to throw up in.

E

Anonymous said...

so you recognize that the fiction which one group enjoys might cause other people to "throw up". Interesting ...

Elizabeth said...

Dear Anon -

Well, of course. If you think I was making a point to the opposite, I don't believe you read carefully enough.

The laundry list of things I can't read is pretty long. I can't read romance novels or chick lit. I am ridiculously squeamish about things like piercings, and can't stand the sight of blood, so I have to either not read anything with blood or skip over large chunks. (I read the "Godfather", for instance, but had to skip all of the gruesome descriptions.)

I could go on (can anyone read Thomas Hardy, I can't), but I'm not sure what the purpose would be.